Dr. Becky Kennedy Special Time Connection

Practice Dr. Becky Kennedy's special time routine with 15 minutes of undivided, child-led play designed to build connection and emotional security.

5 time blocks, 15 minutes in total.

Time blocks

  1. Phone Removal and Timer Setup: 2 min
    Silence your phone, put it out of sight, and set a visual timer
  2. Special Time Announcement: 2 min
    Tell your child it is Special Time and ask what they want to do
  3. Child Led Play Observation: 6 min
    Follow their ideas without teaching, correcting, or taking over
  4. Active Play Presence: 3 min
    Describe what they are doing and join in under their exact directions
  5. Timed Session Wrap: 2 min
    Acknowledge the timer sound and validate the fun you had together

About this routine

Clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy created Special Time as a core parenting strategy in her book Good Inside. The practice calls for setting aside 15 minutes of focused attention where the child directs the play. By putting away phones and dropping adult agenda, parents offer pure presence.

During Dr. Becky Kennedy's special time routine, the parent refrains from correcting, teaching, or leading. You simply describe what your child is doing, follow their instructions, and mirror their play choices. This brief window helps children feel seen and valued, reducing attention-seeking behaviors throughout the rest of the day.

Why this routine works

  • Strengthens parent child attachment
  • Reduces power struggles and attention seeking behaviors
  • Builds emotional security through child led play

FAQ

What is Dr. Becky's Special Time?

Special Time is a 15 minute daily practice where a parent gives full, undivided attention to a child during play led entirely by the child.

How long should Special Time last?

Dr. Becky Kennedy recommends 10 to 15 minutes. A short, consistent block works better than long, intermittent sessions.

Can I use a timer during Special Time?

Yes. Setting a visible timer helps both parent and child know when the session begins and ends without argument.